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Loneliness is that lost and panicky feeling associated with being denied the company/support of others. It is quite different from aloneness, where we make a positive decision  to spend time on our own, for example, on some solo pursuit or when we take time out for reflection/relaxation to clear our heads and recharge our batteries. The loneliness explored here is the unsatisfied…
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Society has a tendency to put those who are self-sacrificing on a pedestal. This can cause us to believe that it is a virtue to put others ahead of ourselves. While caring for others is admirable it should never be at the expense of our own emotional well being. When we are happy life flows seemlessly and  we are much better equipped…
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The advice used to be 'take one day at a time', but these days you are more likely to hear about 'living in the now' or the ' Power of Now', after the bestselling Eckhart Tolle book of the same name. In looking more closely at why the concept of present moment living is a model to follow, lets first…
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We have all heard that 'honesty is the best policy' and would probably regard ourselves as basically honest and trustworthy. But how true is this ? Test yourself against the following  : -   Do you ever tell 'white' lies  eg to avoid embarassment or conflict ? -   Do you exagerate for effect ? -   Do you supress or 'forget to mention '…
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'Good enough isn't' but your best is good enough.  How can we do better than our best ? Yet how often do we beat ourselves up for our performances, even if they are our best.  The problem lies in our definition of 'best'. The true definition is the 'best' we can be today with the skills, experience and level of…
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Why do we sometimes take feelings so seriously, when experience tells us that they will not last ? It's because we allow ourselves to BECOME the feeling, thereby forgetting that 'no feeling is final' Even if we choose to wallow in a feeling it will move on eventually. Like a passing cloud in the sky it is not permanent and will be replaced…
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Increasingly those involved in the healing professions are recommending writing as a practise to deal with inner turmoil, restore a sense of perspective and unearth the insights needed for personal growth. Writing could be considered the Western form of meditation. Sitting still for 'long' periods and 'doing nothing', as many in our culture would view meditative practices, might be ok in India…
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Fear lurks beneath all our negative emotions. An awareness of it is an essential first step to 'squaring up' to and processing the relevant emotion and returning us to a happier place.  Of course, a certain amount of fear is necessary for survival eg the fear that causes us to run when confronted by danger. However, in the main fear is not something that we want to…
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